Browsing on my Twitter Account, a trending topic on the Trends list caught my attention, “#DefineSingle” At first, I am curious on what is going on with the hash tag and started clicking it. I am greatly astonished on what I saw since some people said that being single is nice because you complete your 8 hr sleep, you don’t have someone dependent on you and other negative things about having a relationship.
I cannot blame them for having that kind of attitude/mindset. But all I know that having a relationship is not bad. It is just that even the true definition of love is tainted by the worldly attitudes of men.
And seeing the hash tag and this verse in my quiet times, I decided to write about one of the disturbing topics when it comes to love, romantic love: COURTSHIP.
There are many ways to court. Sometimes we even classify them as the Liberal and the Conservative; the Modern and the Old-Fashioned. Many people in our generation are already indulged in modern terms of courtship. Others still cling on to the latter. And sadly, this won’t be the center of this post. Instead, I want to tell you a story. We will discuss more of these on the next parts.
We are made to dream of being a hero. We always want to be (or gain the powers and achievements of) Superman, Batman, Spiderman etc. We are made to do more, we are made to dream higher. And sometimes, when it comes to courtship, we tend to somewhat praise and commend the successful stories of some successful couples. It might be in your family, community, school or church. These stories become our inspirations, aspiring that their story will be your story as well.
We want our relationship to last and that is the reason we become inspired. I am not saying that it is bad to set an example. But let me tell you this, it is not enough for someone to rely on stories of man alone.
Then let me tell you the story I got from a book:
Imagine yourself in a painting class. The master painter asks the class to duplicate his painting. You are given materials in order to do so. But as you start to paint, you notice that your neighbor have a larger paintbrush. On the other side, that person have a different canvas. There are people who have acrylic, watercolor, oil pastels etc. Each of you have different colors. Then a classmate will also notice this and starts complaining, “How am I going to paint if the materials of each people are different? What if I need a pastel, or a smaller brush?”
And the master painter will said, “I didn’t ask you to compare each others painting. As far as I am concerned, each material I have given you are for you, I evaluated each of you and decided to give you those. Isn’t your job to duplicate my painting, not to compare and not to compete with your classmates?”
This is how courtship should work. We have different talents, convictions, stands, tastes, and perceptions. Yet there is one thing our Master Painter want us to do: FOCUS ON HIS PICTURE.Focus on His plans. Focus on the One who loved us first.
We should do courtship not on our standards, not on their standards, not on that standards, BUT BASED ON GOD’S STANDARDS.
Are you ready to have a commitment? Discern it based on God’s standards.
Do you have purity and security (emotional and financial)? Discern it based on God’s standards.
Siya na ba kaya??? Discern it based on God’s standards.
Kelan kaya siya darating? Discern it based on God’s standards.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. ~ 1 Cor. 13: 4-8